Is a little different to the NWA approach previous, but if one has control one can think NWA and then simply turn the other cheek. Or one can not contend, even walk away. For those adamant on conflict, usually verbal sparring or arguing the toss, these are quite infuriating. Those keen on heated verbal exchanges generally become less keen when physical violence starts to manifest. This is calling someone’s bluff. Most verbal bullies are not so brave when physical injury becomes a real possibility. Suddenly their bravado evaporates.
It is a teaching of Christianity to turn the other cheek and until you try it, you never know. But that turning the other cheek is best done from a position of clarity and not cowardice. When it is done, one can even actively encourage the other person to strike you, either verbally or physically. Eventually most people will spend their anger and get a bit sheepish. I have even had someone hurt their hand, hitting me, which was quite funny.
It is related to the idea, if someone wants badly to be an asshole, let them. Over the years this has become a favourite strategy of mine. If someone is all het up and seeking revenge, give it to them. Pay. That is what they want after all. Then maybe pay some more. If somebody is so very keen on “winning”, let them win.
It takes a fair deal of self-control not to get drawn into an escalating drama. And some thrive on the oxygen of drama. There is no point discussing with a mad man. Maybe the next day, when they have calmed down, it might be possible. But some people can brew and stew for a very long time. They can wait to exact.
To most people turning the other cheek is in the realms of theory and not practice, which is a bit of a shame. Thus, we have tit-for-tat escalations all over the world.
Why does everybody want to fight so much?
What does it ever really prove?