In the set of unresolved challenges there are many which stem from Failure to Decide. Until we do this we cannot use the key of decision to unlock the door or possibility, we are like Solomon faced with two harlots, one baby and a knife. The moment a decision is made the situation is unlocked. Until such time as this the situation is both emotive and awkward. In many cases we seek both one thing and another, as a consequence we run the risk of ruining both. Our attention is diverted, and we let things drift. We may want a mistress and a wife, a promotion and ethics, fame and a home life. There is a hope that we can somehow manufacture both-and. When we are challenged by the universe or God, to make a decision, we balk and eschew responsibility. This can and very often does, leave a mess. Many of these failures in decision have a root in face, saving face. We have gotten ourselves into a tight spot and cannot extract ourselves therefrom without losing “face”. So more often than not we try the same behaviours and approaches that got us into the tight spot, we haven’t yet decided that the approach isn’t working. We do not even decide to stop digging the hole as a temporary prophylactic measure.
Many unresolved challenges arise out of arrogance, stubbornness, pride or both-and thinking. Until we let go, there is no way forward and no way back. The terms we seek to enforce on the world, the universe, are unacceptable to it, but we keep on trying. The challenge cannot be resolved on our terms. It can only be resolved in some other way and even then, it may never be resolved, if we have gone too far. Our will, has caused problems and we have not yet decided to let go of, our will.
Have a think about this:
How many of the problems, difficulties and unresolved challenges in my life have arisen out of the failure to decide?