That Sinking Feeling

Ever had that sinking feeling as “it” slowly starts to dawn on you?

This can happen when something or someone you believe in, whom you may even revere, starts to look more than a little shabby. Slowly you start to realise that they have been lying and though you may not want to, your heart starts to sink. You can feel it in your gut.  “How could I have been so stupid?” Nearly always what has pulled the wool over the eyes, is some imagined benefit, some glamour or other. The “shiny” has blinded you to true nature. One could go to a hotel room in the hope of a movie role and there is a middle-aged man waving his cock at you, for example.

Our heroes, our idealized forms, can fail to be quite as wonderful as we imagined. The guru becomes the cult leader, the priest or the DJ abuses children. The football executive is busy lining his own pockets and those of his pals. People can be more than willing to swallow things hook, line and sinker.

“It’s easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled.”

There is much debate even about the provenance of the “famous” Twain quote, one web site has it in paraphrased form:

“The glory which is built upon a lie soon becomes a most unpleasant incumbrance. …  How easy it is to make people believe a lie, and how hard it is to undo that work again!”

Autobiographical dictation, 2 December 1906. Published in Autobiography of Mark Twain, Volume 2 (University of California Press, 2013)

Human nature does not like to believe that it has been suckered and fooled. It will go into huge denial.

That sinking feeling also comes when we know we have to do something, but dread doing it. So, we put if off and put it off. This doesn’t usually work; the dread simply grows. The situation we are dreading gets worse.

There is only one method that truly works, take your eyes off the “shiny” and listen to your heart. If you do this quickly enough you will have less of those sinking feelings in life.