One can bury one’s head in the sand so that one fails to see the great big pink elephant in the room, change the topic of conversation back to the weather, and cross your fingers that “it” will never happen. Avoidance is a common pass time especially when to face up to something entails some risk or other. Avoidance is usually rooted in fear and often fear of loss of control. It can be not polite to face facts and there is a risk of a major social faux pas. We can find all kinds of reasons and justifications for avoidance behaviours. The truth of the matter is that the “it” to be avoided often does not simply go away or fall through the fabric of space-time into another dimension, much though we wish it would. So, we skirt around the issue, tread carefully on thin ice and do anything other than that “it” we are seeking to avoid.
There is one major problem with avoidance, that which is small and uncomfortable can grow large. At early stages what offered discomfort can grow into a real and genuine crisis. We can be very slow on the uptake and because we are not looking at “it” we fail to notice just how big and out of proportion it has grown. Rather than taking a stich in time which might save nine we claim that we have lost our needles and thread. Avoidance is very often causal of crisis. We put something off until it is way too late, by which time “it” is beyond repair.
To give an example. Last night there was a documentary on the now infamous cock waving movie producer. He bought off one woman after another and threatened them with NDAs. Perhaps he imagined that he could get away with it forever. He ignored the mounting warning signs and BANG it all blew up in his face. Rather than face up to an alter his behaviours he precipitated his own crisis through them, ruining the lives of others along the way. He possibly had an entitled “I can get away with it” attitude. I don’t know I never met the man.
We avoid all kinds of things most not as unpleasant as the aforementioned one. Avoidance behaviours never solve problems they just cause them to stew and fester. There is only one way to deal with this crippling penchant for avoidance and that is to face the thing, the “it”, we are avoiding.
Having cued this up:
Do I recognise this avoidance in myself?
Does it, in the long-term, ever work?
Have I ever faced up to something I was avoiding?
Was the entire fabric of universal space-time rent asunder?
Or, had I blown things out of proportion?