If you read this blog there is a theme in it broadly along the lines of “having to decide” and “deciding”. This notion of letting go of both-and thinking is not palatable to many because they want it all and they want it now. People like to have their cake and eat it. Failing to prioritise leads to loss and how we set those priorities, if indeed we are so bold, can vary. What seems important one day is not so important later. Maybe we want a nice house, maybe we want to beat that bastard Smith at some game or other, maybe we want more sex, maybe we want kudos. Perhaps we want a family, to belong, a tribe. As a rule of thumb people are beset by immediacy thinking and do not look longer-term, the myopia of immediacy can neglect on-going implications. That must have drunken shag can be very consequential.
Here is a little exercise:
Make a list of what is important to you and then rank that list into a kind of league table of importance. Attach reasons and justifications for your choices.
Now that you have done your bullshit, public relations, show-and-tell list. Make another list, only this time, make it about the things that are really important to you.