Getting the Wrong End of the Stick

Have you ever gotten entirely the wrong end of the stick about someone?

I’ll speculate that, at one time or another, we all have. How badly wrong we have been may vary. Someone we assume to be a “great guy” can be an utter bastard, someone who we imagine the devil incarnate may be a paragon of virtue. We all make mistakes, some big, some small. If we rely on the presented face value we may be way off the mark, if we trust what “they” say we can be misguided. If we rely on repute alone we may in fact be missing a lot. But this getting the wrong end of the stick is a part of the human experience, and it is only by experience that we learn to discern more accurately. It is possible that we get the wrong end of the stick on purpose, for to get the right end of the stick has implications we don’t like; it would place us in a sticky situation. We may plead ignorance about our selection of the end of the stick.

Sometimes however getting the wrong end of the stick can be a fuck up of huge proportions. The less close to our expectations things are, people are, the more likely it is that we will misjudge them. Our expectations and suppositions may impact badly on our choice of stick end. And once we have made this choice we can be stuck with it for a very long time. The wrong end of the stick is often coated with superglue and we can’t free our hands from it, no matter how hard we shake that stick is stuck fast.

Having cued this up:

Do I often get the wrong end of the stick?

Has any one of these caused me big problems?

Once I have gotten the wrong end of the stick is it hard to let go of that stick?