Not Knowing Any Different

There is a tendency for each of us to become very habituated in the way we live our lives, and in our outlooks. We might imagine that our way, our world, comprises more than it actually does. We are surrounded by our life circumstances, our peers, our friends and our families. What we may deem normal may be limited and strange to others. But to us it is normal and right. We might subscribe to a particular view, and that alone is the truth. We may become like Sheldon and close-minded. Or we may be a verbatim bible-basher. Until we have an experience which is an eye-opener we may feel cossetted and safe in our own little worlds. We do not, as yet, know any different.

When I first started looking into things “New Age” I immediately encountered prejudice. I was, at that time, a physical scientist and a laser-jock. In these circumstances, as we sat on metaphorical “bean bags” to introduce ourselves, the room would fall silent. There was a prejudice against “scientists” and it was perhaps imagined that I was there to find fault. As it turned out I was more open-minded than most, I had tipped up to explore and experiment. I was not there to evangelise. I was not on a soap box, nor did I have a drum to beat. The others did not know any different.

In the UK we have a  phenomenon called “The Strictly Curse”. It refers to when famous people join a show in which they learn to dance with a professional dancer. Learning to dance is quite intimate and it needs for people to relate, really relate. It involves expression and letting go. Many of these “celebs” go into the show “happily” married, they think they know what relationship means. As they start to learn dance, they see that something is missing from their happy marriage. They start to see something different which they had not seen before. As a result, a number of these “happy” marriages end up on the rocks and in the divorce courts. This is the so-called “curse”. In fact, it is just a new experience which changes horizons and is by way of an eye-opener.

New experience shows us something different. Caught up in our habituated world and with habituated thinking we do not know any different, until, until we experience. To presuppose that our habituated living is complete, is to be in error. Yet people can be very closed to new experience and thus they do not know any different, they may even die that way.

Having cued this up:

Is it possible that I have become very habituated in the way I live and the way I think?

Is that just dandy, or somewhat limiting?

How could I tell if I do not know any different?