Harmless or Destructive?

Many of us approach life like a bull on amphetamines in a china shop. We do not imagine that there are people and situations that are fragile. Thus, through our actions we can wreak havoc. And that havoc can then propagate outwards. A balance can be easily upset and once past the tipping point there is nothing that can be done to stop the inevitable crash. Lost balance can cause a kind of chaos. Without knowing it we can be the last straw that drives someone over the edge. We might think, “silly snowflake, they need to toughen up”. It may not occur to us that we need to stop being such a bull in the china shop and approach life with more of a delicate touch. We would abnegate our responsibility and carry on regardless. These tipping points are more prevalent than we might imagine.

This property of harmlessness is not attractive to those who feel so very entitled to be destructive. They may not even see or accept that they are being destructive. All it can take is one ill-considered thing to bring the “china” crashing down. People as a rule do not walk lightly on the land. The ME at one end of the see-saw of life is heavy and it is this weighty and important ME which so often upsets the balance. The ME has blinkers and does not see so well.

Until one can accept the notion of fragility and fragility of balance, there is a blindness to the harm we cause. That harm cannot be undone, and, in many cases, it is irrevocable. Of course, no bull would countenance such a thing. “Don’t be silly I have every right to charge around without thinking!” Maybe one day in a moment of clarity they look around the shop and think, “Fuck, did I do all that?”

If such an epiphany happens it can seed the urge to be less harmful, to adopt harmlessness as a default.

Having cued this up:

Is it OK to be a bull in a china shop?

Do I have a right to destroy, willy-nilly?

Is harmlessness just for girls and snowflakes?

Or, are things more fragile than I might imagine?