Needless to say, the course I mentioned previously was the very last one I did, of its ilk. Trying to get arrogant insecure people to talk of Feelings, even a little tiny bit, can lead to a metaphorical crucifixion. Of course, it isn’t that bad, but when the T-type attack dogs are on the loose what is an F-type to do? Walk away and thereafter be disinclined. I got that T-shirt.
So very many are shit-scared about speaking of Feelings. They are caught in unidimensional brain-land. Where all their self-esteem is invested in their cleverness, which may in any case not be as extensive as they imagine. It is very simple, ask someone to open-up even a smidgeon and they attack, criticise, slag off and try to avoid it like the plague. Feelings are not Ebola, strange as that may seem to some.
We INFJ types are pretty rare and often we get bullied and persecuted. Many hide their talents under a bushel because we have learned long and hard. We may sense things about people which they seek to hide, and should we be stupid enough to open our mouths; BANG, we get it both barrels, the T-type attack dogs are let loose. This faculty, this skill set, remains largely unused.
A part of the cause of me being where I am today can be directly traced to this unwillingness to speak about Feelings in other people. This bottling up, leads to pressure and illness.
I’ll suggest something now, see what you think. One of the best ways of overcoming insecurity is through cultivating vulnerability. Sounds scary perhaps? But insecurity never goes away through pretending to be invulnerable, one is always on the attack, always defensive. It must be really unpleasant to live like that, always edgy, a kind of shell.
To be a spiritual warrior, one must have a broken heart; without a broken heart and the sense of tenderness and vulnerability, your warriorship is untrustworthy.